Even couples whose love lives are quite healthy might be interested in better sex; long-term relationships often run the risk of settling into a comfortable groove that can then turn into a rut. One way for couples to keep things lively is to try letting their “inner child” out a little during their sexual activities. The better sex that can result from this exploration not only is going to help improve penis health by keeping the organ active, it may also improve the health of the relationship by enabling partners to learn more about each other.
What kind of inner child?
Getting in touch with the inner child can mean a lot of different things to different people. In the context of bringing the inner child into one’s sexual experience, it doesn’t mean introducing that part of oneself that may be petulant or demanding or always wanting his own way. It refers instead to the sense of freedom and playfulness that comes naturally to children but which adults tend to bottle up when they reach a certain age.
Bringing that playfulness into the bedroom can be liberating. It creates a new sense of excitement and adds a level of intimacy, even to relationships which are long-established.
Discussion or surprise?
Should a man spring his inner child on his partner? Or is this something that needs discussion? There’s not a right or wrong answer to that question. As with so many things, it really depends upon the specific personalities involved. In some cases, a partner may see where a man is going if he introduces childlike play into their intimacy and join him in the game. In other cases, it’s not going to work unless the partner is properly prepared.
What activities should be involved?
Again, this depends upon the individuals involved, but the general idea is to get involved in activities that bring about a sense of playfulness and free-spiritedness. In some cases, it may also bring about a sense of faux-competitiveness.
For example, pillow fights are often an excellent way to get one’s sensual juices flowing. The individuals don’t necessarily want to “win” the pillow fight so much as get the adrenaline pumping, have laughs and use the pillow fight as a way to “get going.” Laughter, growling, jumping, tickling and other reactions that grow out of the pillow fight help lead to a spirited bout of coupling.
Playing “strip” versions of games can also be fun. Strip poker is obvious, but there are other variations as well. For example, play a version of Twister in which participants must take off a different piece of clothing every time a new color is called. Play dice and have each individual pick a number. When that number is rolled, a piece of clothing comes off.
If privacy is not an issue, engage in naked versions of more physical games, such as tag, hide and seek or wrestling. Better sex is just a quick hop, skip and jump away, as the physical activity helps release the chemicals that lead to energetic intimacy.